Every mom has dreams and goals for her children. Whatever those dreams center on, whether it’s education, success, or family, it really boils down to the same thing: we want our kids to grow up to be happy adults.
Sometimes, in this crazy, mixed-up, trouble-filled world, that dream is easier said than accomplished.
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I know for me, since my husband died, my number one goal has been to show my son, by my words and my example, how to cope with that huge loss. I want him to know without a doubt that whenever he has any problems, worries, or sad feelings, he can come to me, and I will do my very best to help him cope.
I don’t believe that money or a great career is the recipe for being a happy adult. Happiness has more to do with knowing how to overcome problems, because problems will come. Our kids need to learn how to deal successfully with whatever happens in their lives.
Here is what I’m trying to teach my son:
Grow Strong, Grow Brave,
Love and Be Loving,
Be Honest, Be Fair,
Be a friend.
Be a good friend to others. Be giving, and ready to help. Be someone’s support system. Chances are, you will need a support system one day when problems come your way.
Make plans, and work hard to make those plans a reality. Working hard and achieving goals gives a definite glow of satisfaction.
There isn’t enough kindness in the world. Every kind word is a victory over meanness and ignorance.
Look for the good, not the bad.
See the good in people. See the positive in any situation. As moms, the best way to teach our children this is by our example. Our ability to point out a person’s good qualities, instead of focusing on the bad, teaches our children to do the same.
It’s not easy teaching our kids to live by these principles, or trying to set the example of happiness when we are struggling in difficult situations. I know. I make mistakes all the time. When I do make mistakes, I tell my son I’m sorry. I want him to know he can do the same thing: be honest with himself and others, and he doesn’t have to live up to any ideas of perfection. It’s always okay to ask for help.
What’s your dream for your child?